Motherhood is demanding! You don’t need us to tell you that if you’re a parent yourself. While spending time with our children is rewarding, there are still times when we need to consider our own needs occasionally.
We need to look after ourselves, finding ways to relax and de stress so that we can be a better mother to our kids. We also need to look at our life beyond parenthood, as we need to care about those aspects of our lives that will benefit who we are beyond our mum role. In short, we need to practice self-care, for all aspects of our lives.
This, of course, isn’t so easy when you’re a stay-at-home mum! But hey, if you know you need to care for yourself more, here are some tips that might just help you.
Gather a support network. Other people can be a lifesaver to you, and they can both help you and free up your time. If you have extended family, friends, or neighbours who can lend you a hand, then enlist them onto your support network. These are the people who can babysit your kids while you have a break for a while. These are the people who can support you in your mummy duties, so you don’t have to face the burden alone. And these are the people who can encourage you and make you laugh; those people you can socialise with when you are in need of some adult company and conversation.
Get outside as much as you can. The fresh air will do you good, so get away from the four walls of your house when the weather is fine, and feel the benefits of the outside world. Care for your physical and mental health through exercise. Meet up with other mums in the park. And find a hobby, be that something you can do in the garden when your children are otherwise engaged, or something you can do away from home when your support network can step in to help you.
Find ways to relax. When your children are with your support network or busy elsewhere, do those things that relax you, whether it’s taking a bath, putting your feet up with a good book, or catching up on some shut-eye. This is your time to de-stress, recharge your batteries, and enjoy those precious few moments when life is all about you.
Focus on self-improvement. Self-care is sometimes about self-improvement, which admittedly, is difficult when you are on child duties. Still, there will be points in the day when you do have time to focus on yourself, whether that’s when your children are otherwise engaged, or when your partner or support network relieve you of your parenting duties. So, look at what you want to do to improve yourself, be that learning new skills with a hobby or side-hustle, or furthering your education with something like this masters of engineering management online to boost your career chances if you ever want to go back to work.
Your children are precious to you, so it’s understandable that you sacrifice your needs to care for them. But remember that you are important too. It’s not selfish or bad parenting to think about yourself once in a while, so practice self-care, and find ways to love yourself and the person you are in your daily routine.
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